My Chemical Romance guitarist Frank Iero posted on Instagram concerning the dying of former drummer Bob Bryar:
“i nonetheless don’t really feel like that is actual… folks your age, your friends, those you shared a lot time and expertise with aren’t supposed to only all of the sudden go away your life ceaselessly…however i suppose permanence isn’t actually an idea people are supposed to perceive.
i’ve spent the previous few days fascinated by Bob quite a bit and the individual i knew him to be. These are among the issues that caught out:
BC Bryar was plenty of issues. An enigma of types as a result of he usually inhabited each ends of any spectrum on the identical time. He was my good friend and my bandmate, however he was additionally a stranger to me for many of my life. We lived collectively for some time, on and off the highway… however after the band we’d go months on finish with none sort of contact till i texted him a “comfortable birthday!” or out of nowhere he would hit me asking how previous the youngsters have been today or verify in on how my dad was feeling.
Typically we’d commerce a meme or photographs of lego builds we had completed, however then somebody would go away the opposite on learn and an indeterminate radio silence would comply with. Within the meantime i’d hear rumblings of what he is perhaps as much as or some shit he’d stirred up on-line, however that wasn’t ever the individual i used to be acquainted with. Bob was extremely proficient and he knew it, assured sufficient in his skills to persuade us that he was the appropriate drummer for our band with out us truly ever listening to him play drums.
Nonetheless, through the years i discovered him to be extremely self aware and introverted each time he felt positioned exterior of his consolation zone. Bob was eccentric as fuck and humorous as hell. He might be imply and troll you so exhausting that it could minimize you in half, however should you ever actually wanted one thing he can be the primary one there to present you no matter he had if it could aid you out not directly or put a smile in your face.
Though thumbing his nostril and pissing folks off was all the time a favourite pastime and one thing he didn’t ever develop out of…(i suppose should you discover you do one thing properly, you have a tendency to stay to it.)
Bob usually acquired fixated on issues to a degree of obsession and he preferred to make issues tough. In a wierd approach i feel he discovered some consolation in it. His drumming was clear, all the time exact and distinctive, however i keep in mind whereas on tour for the black parade he acquired bored, and in order a sport he determined to place all of his drums flat so that there have been no angles pointing towards him. In flip making it extra uncomfortable to play and finally injuring his wrists. So far as i do know he refused to ever return to a extra comfy place… however this was additionally across the time Bob refused to put on any sort of footwear apart from walmart slippers as a result of he most well-liked consolation over any sort of model.
BC Bryar was at instances the one i associated to probably the most within the band as a result of his humor was darkish as fuck similar to mine and we might chortle over our collective negativity with out ever worrying we’d offend each other. We even had this plan to get semi matching tattoos that will
say: Bob/Frank Hates _______. after which we might fill them in with one thing totally different in mark every day after we undoubtedly discovered a brand new factor that acquired on our nerves. There have been additionally instances when i feel Bob disliked me immensely, and wished he might kick me out of the band.
Perhaps some days he would have written my title in sharpie on the clean area of that tattoo.
Bob actually didn’t like the corporate of individuals all that a lot, however he cherished animals. i’m fairly satisfied he would have been comfortable to look at the world burn if he might be promised not a single canine or cat can be harmed within the course of. At one level whereas we have been working and dwelling out in LA Bob and some pals acquired scammed by a canine coach and one in every of his canine was killed within the course of. It was an actual shady story and Bob ws devastated. It actually wrecked him emotionally and that i don’t suppose he was ever the identical once more. Issues actually went south with him and the band following that incident, he simply couldn’t preserve it collectively anymore, his disappointment, anger and mistrust have been an excessive amount of to deal with and took over all elements.
I keep in mind telling him, please simply come to me with stuff first. You may discuss to me about no matter shit is bothering you and not using a filter and collectively we are able to provide you with a technique to both repair the scenario or determine a plan on find out how to focus on this with everybody else…. However finally it was a bandaid that didn’t maintain, the injury was completed and Bob was too far gone. Finally I used to be the one which needed to inform him he was out of the band. He remoted himself by design fairly quickly after that. I attempted to him a number of instances through the years, however he politely made it inconceivable. I don’t suppose i ever acquired to inform him i used to be sorry, i don’t know if it could have mattered… however i do want like hell I completed the textual content dialog we had again in September.
I hope you discovered some peace, BC.
I’m glad the universe let me know you for a
whereas. xofrnk”